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hooking up

The paradigm has shifted. Dating is dated. Hooking up is here to stay.
[...] hooking up is a casual sexual encounter with no expectation of future emotional commitment. Think of it as a one-night stand with someone you know.

Under the old model, you dated a few times and, if you really liked the person, you might consider having sex. Under the new model, you hook up a few times and, if you really like the person, you might consider going on a date.

So why is there an increase in hooking up? According to Professor Bogle, it’s: the collapse of advanced planning, lopsided gender ratios on campus, delaying marriage, relaxing values and sheer momentum.
It used to be that “you were trained your whole life to date,” said Ms. Bogle. “Now we’ve lost that ability — the ability to just ask someone out and get to know them.
Now that’s sad.

Sex is getting more and more impersonal - a mere physical activity where you find joy and excitement, somewhat like chewing gum. We marvel at the intimacy that sex gives - be it only an illusion - but couldn't get in real life. But in doing so we are hurting ourselves more and more and one day we'll lost the ability to connect with anyone. That's so broken - and sad.

原文出自New York Times

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